I have a friend who occasionally facebooks me and we belly-ache about balance. You know, trying to find time to do it all: ride the bike, be a dad, be a husband, go to the gym, work etc. Its hard. Trying to find time to pursue your own goals while also attending to the other items in your life that are important or necessary. I joke that balance is something you acheive while you're on your way from one extreme to the other!
This has been a personal struggle of mine for the last ten years. When my daughter was born, I essentially gave up on trying to ride my bike in any meaningful way. Granted I was a stay at home dad and I had retired from racing bikes as a pro. But, I recall I couldn't figure out how to have it all.
Some of the things I've learned along the way are that sometimes you have to let something go by the wayside so you can focus on something else. You can come back to that other thing another time. And now I have a better idea of how to prioritize. BUT, with that said, my priorities have changed. I've fantasized a few times about going back to racing but, its not worth it to me at the expense of the kids or my wife. I'd rather watch them play soccer or volleyball. I'd rather ride with my son that without him (most of the time). Melissa and I started the kids skiing this last winter.
Life (as my brother Hugh says) "is large and loud and rarely goes as expected!" Its my humble opinion that having it all means juggling and shifting of priorities.
My little girl is 10 now and I have to admit, half seriously and half jokingly that only in the last couple of years have I really figured out how to balance some of these things. I'm riding my bike more, skiing more, working out more, working and being a good husband and dad is important to me. Maybe I'm dense. Maybe I needed to figure out whats really important.
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